Comments on: ABOUT-ABC http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com Let's Recognize, Name, and End, Workplace Bullying and Mobbing Together! Sat, 02 Jan 2010 21:21:11 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: teana http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-878 teana Mon, 28 Dec 2009 00:15:07 +0000 #comment-878 I HAVE CONTACTED MY LEGISLATURES VIA EMAIL, SO FAR NO ONE HAS RESPONDED. AS A LAST RESORT I SENT LETTERS TO THEIR HOMES ASKING FOR SUPPORT BY SPONSORING AN WORKPLACE BULLYING BILL, SINCE THIS TOPIC HAS BEEN BROUGHT UP FOR YEARS AND KNOW ONE PUSHED THE ISSUE OUR GOVERNMENT NEVER ADDRESSED IT OR GAVE IT ANY SERIOUS ATTENTION. I HAVE AN ANTI BULLYING CAMPAIGN POST ON CHANGE.ORG UNDER THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE TAB BECAUSE A LOT OF THE BULLYING WE HAVE ENDURED IS A CRIMINAL OFFENSE. AGAIN I ASK EVERYONE TO CONTACT THE LEGISLATURES AND LETS COLLABORATE TO BRING AWARENESS AND HELP EACH OTHER. I HAVE CONTACTED MY LEGISLATURES VIA EMAIL, SO FAR NO ONE HAS RESPONDED. AS A LAST RESORT I SENT LETTERS TO THEIR HOMES ASKING FOR SUPPORT BY SPONSORING AN WORKPLACE BULLYING BILL, SINCE THIS TOPIC HAS BEEN BROUGHT UP FOR YEARS AND KNOW ONE PUSHED THE ISSUE OUR GOVERNMENT NEVER ADDRESSED IT OR GAVE IT ANY SERIOUS ATTENTION. I HAVE AN ANTI BULLYING CAMPAIGN POST ON CHANGE.ORG UNDER THE CRIMINAL JUSTICE TAB BECAUSE A LOT OF THE BULLYING WE HAVE ENDURED IS A CRIMINAL OFFENSE. AGAIN I ASK EVERYONE TO CONTACT THE LEGISLATURES AND LETS COLLABORATE TO BRING AWARENESS AND HELP EACH OTHER.

]]> By: indignant2 http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-857 indignant2 Sun, 01 Nov 2009 08:51:27 +0000 #comment-857 dear Hell on earth Although I don't respond to posts, I visit this site often. I feel sympathy for the targets of WP bullying and what they have suffered, or are suffering. Sorry to read of what you are going through at work. You mentioned that this disease didn’t exist 20 years ago. I have been in employment for 40 years and from what I’ve seen, it has always been around. I’d prefer to be friends with people and quietly get on with my job but WP bullies seem to ENJOY being nasty, which gives them extra impetus. I can’t understand what they get out of being so brutal. Websites like this show me I’m not alone. And the advice is good. It’s only in the last few months that I’ve managed to retaliate against my WP bully. It’s almost bewildering how they backed off! Now life is a little easier for me but the threat is always lurking. If a bully sees an opening, they will strike. And I’ve noticed that if one bully backs off, another one emerges from their corner. It’s never-ending! I get further solace and amusement by reading www.workrant.com and from having my own blog where I can rant and get my thoughts in order. Thanks for your post and to teana (and all the others) for sharing. Best wishes. dear Hell on earth
Although I don’t respond to posts, I visit this site often. I feel sympathy for the targets of WP bullying and what they have suffered, or are suffering. Sorry to read of what you are going through at work.
You mentioned that this disease didn’t exist 20 years ago. I have been in employment for 40 years and from what I’ve seen, it has always been around. I’d prefer to be friends with people and quietly get on with my job but WP bullies seem to ENJOY being nasty, which gives them extra impetus. I can’t understand what they get out of being so brutal.
Websites like this show me I’m not alone. And the advice is good. It’s only in the last few months that I’ve managed to retaliate against my WP bully. It’s almost bewildering how they backed off! Now life is a little easier for me but the threat is always lurking. If a bully sees an opening, they will strike. And I’ve noticed that if one bully backs off, another one emerges from their corner. It’s never-ending!
I get further solace and amusement by reading http://www.workrant.com and from having my own blog where I can rant and get my thoughts in order. Thanks for your post and to teana (and all the others) for sharing.
Best wishes.

]]> By: Hell on earth http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-856 Hell on earth Sun, 01 Nov 2009 02:35:45 +0000 #comment-856 Teana-one thing I notice from this site is that no one seems to come back to it or reply to each other-I believe we all came here as a last desperate search for comfort and terrible things have happened to us. It is not our imagination or fault-we were targetted and mobbed for no reason of our doing or control and while bullies have always existed this disease of the workplace did not exist 20yrs ago. It is of modern invention and needs to be legislated-but I doubt it ever will. What does need to happen is support systems for victims. For example, job references need to be legislated. My bully boss...the day I met her... said home phone #'s should be given on references so that she can trash the employee without fear of legal repercussions! I read in the paper the other day of a local school holding a good charachter day-schools now seeing the need to teach children to be good to each other-because parents/media were/are teaching them the opposite. I found this website here when I was surfing the net out of curiousity about a game called The Mafia Game I overheard my young mobsters laughing about and extending invitations to another coworker to join. Imagine my shock to learn this game is being banned in schools across America where young kids are committing suicide in despair. I now realize I grew up so sheltered because for so many years I thought the world was good and just. I pray good futures for all of you. Teana-one thing I notice from this site is that no one seems to come back to it or reply to each other-I believe we all came here as a last desperate search for comfort and terrible things have happened to us. It is not our imagination or fault-we were targetted and mobbed for no reason of our doing or control and while bullies have always existed this disease of the workplace did not exist 20yrs ago. It is of modern invention and needs to be legislated-but I doubt it ever will. What does need to happen is support systems for victims. For example, job references need to be legislated. My bully boss…the day I met her… said home phone #’s should be given on references so that she can trash the employee without fear of legal repercussions! I read in the paper the other day of a local school holding a good charachter day-schools now seeing the need to teach children to be good to each other-because parents/media were/are teaching them the opposite. I found this website here when I was surfing the net out of curiousity about a game called The Mafia Game I overheard my young mobsters laughing about and extending invitations to another coworker to join. Imagine my shock to learn this game is being banned in schools across America where young kids are committing suicide in despair. I now realize I grew up so sheltered because for so many years I thought the world was good and just. I pray good futures for all of you.

]]> By: teana http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-855 teana Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:20:41 +0000 #comment-855 i am a victim of workplace bullying/mobbing in order to stop the monsters that inflict this treatment on us we have to fight back, i mean literally push our legislatures to make this horrible treatment illegal, as long as we crawl in a hole and die the abusers will be satisfied. although this type of violence is not illegal i have to fight back these people want to destroy you financially by pushing you out of your job also emotionally by making your life a living hell, im seeking support because im taking my abusers to court win or lose, i wont stop telling the world what these monsters did to me. i am a victim of workplace bullying/mobbing in order to stop the monsters that inflict this treatment on us we have to fight back, i mean literally push our legislatures to make this horrible treatment illegal, as long as we crawl in a hole and die the abusers will be satisfied. although this type of violence is not illegal i have to fight back these people want to destroy you financially by pushing you out of your job also emotionally by making your life a living hell, im seeking support because im taking my abusers to court win or lose, i wont stop telling the world what these monsters did to me.

]]> By: DBC http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-848 DBC Fri, 16 Oct 2009 16:44:18 +0000 #comment-848 Dear ABC, Interesting website and yes, I have experienced WP bullying and especially mobbing as a former public school teacher. Have a question for you that if you can respond to via e-mail would be appreciated. I have read a lot of your blog articles and it is clear you use (IMO overuse) the term "target" yet rarely if ever use the term "victim." Is there a reason you choose not to describe targets as victims? Or why you don't use victims to describe targets? They are one in the same are they not? Thanks, DBC Dear ABC,

Interesting website and yes, I have experienced WP bullying and especially mobbing as a former public school teacher. Have a question for you that if you can respond to via e-mail would be appreciated.

I have read a lot of your blog articles and it is clear you use (IMO overuse) the term “target” yet rarely if ever use the term “victim.”

Is there a reason you choose not to describe targets as victims? Or why you don’t use victims to describe targets? They are one in the same are they not?

Thanks,

DBC

]]> By: Hell on earth http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-847 Hell on earth Fri, 16 Oct 2009 01:57:05 +0000 #comment-847 I eagerly and happily went to work daily for 23yrs and did damned good work. Then my bully was hired. She was the young coworker (Columbine generation) I trained who then became my supervisor. This is the first time I have written about this. I have endured 7yrs of hell. Mobbing took place almost immediately when the power shifted. The earliest attacks were subtle but with time blatant-many examples, none of which would stand up in court without support/proof. I don't know the definition of PTSD but believe I have it. Hypersensitivity to her presence, hands/voice shake, trouble concentrating, trouble sleeping, trouble enduring loud noises hectic environments, suicidal thoughts, etc. This drags you down to the point where you become your own worst enemy and the quality of your work and your health suffers. I do not have a support system at home to help ameliorate the effects. I have found that men actually admire this kind of viciousness in a female. I believe the only solution is to flee as soon as possible-some of her lesser targets have already fled. I have also observed one target brown-nose so aggressively that she ended her campaign against her. Anyone from the previous regime was targetted and then replaced by newly hired soldiers. My pension I devotedly earned here is tied to a certain length of employment I have not reached yet. The question is whether I live long enough. The irony to me is that never has my workplace been so out of control, yet she is like teflon. I know enough of her background to understand why she is as she is. My reaction daily is that of a stunned deer in headlights. I just can't believe one human being can be so without conscience. When you spend enough time with people, they reveal themselves in many ways-lets just say that bigotry cruelty sociopathy is alive and well in the american workplace. I eagerly and happily went to work daily for 23yrs and did damned good work. Then my bully was hired. She was the young coworker (Columbine generation) I trained who then became my supervisor. This is the first time I have written about this. I have endured 7yrs of hell. Mobbing took place almost immediately when the power shifted. The earliest attacks were subtle but with time blatant-many examples, none of which would stand up in court without support/proof. I don’t know the definition of PTSD but believe I have it. Hypersensitivity to her presence, hands/voice shake, trouble concentrating, trouble sleeping, trouble enduring loud noises hectic environments, suicidal thoughts, etc. This drags you down to the point where you become your own worst enemy and the quality of your work and your health suffers. I do not have a support system at home to help ameliorate the effects. I have found that men actually admire this kind of viciousness in a female. I believe the only solution is to flee as soon as possible-some of her lesser targets have already fled. I have also observed one target brown-nose so aggressively that she ended her campaign against her. Anyone from the previous regime was targetted and then replaced by newly hired soldiers. My pension I devotedly earned here is tied to a certain length of employment I have not reached yet. The question is whether I live long enough. The irony to me is that never has my workplace been so out of control, yet she is like teflon. I know enough of her background to understand why she is as she is. My reaction daily is that of a stunned deer in headlights. I just can’t believe one human being can be so without conscience. When you spend enough time with people, they reveal themselves in many ways-lets just say that bigotry cruelty sociopathy is alive and well in the american workplace.

]]> By: ABC-AntiBullyingCrusador http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-837 ABC-AntiBullyingCrusador Mon, 21 Sep 2009 01:50:36 +0000 #comment-837 Dear Tracy, As I often write, once a target always a target. I feel a common bond between all "targets" of "workplace bullying and mobbing" present and past. It's like the kinship felt between soldiers who have fought in great battles in famous wars. Horrific violence becomes a part of who a person is, giving them a unique perspective that only fellow victims can truly understand. Just as the "tactics" of our bully bosses are unbelievably similar, the effect on past targets are unbelievably similar as well. It has been a recurring theme, in accounts from past targets, that once free from a hostile workplace, it continues to be a big part of their lives. Being bullied is not easily forgotten. Instead, many targets are left with a new maturity, almost a seriousness, about the importance of respectfulness toward everyone we encounter. In so many ways, targets are doing whatever they can, to reach and teach others about the bullying and mobbing phenomenon. Soon, with our individual and joint efforts, all working Americans will come to know enough, To Recognize it, Name it, and End Workplace Bullying and Mobbing Together! God bless you and all your efforts in this very important cause. ABC Dear Tracy,
As I often write, once a target always a target. I feel a common bond between all “targets” of “workplace bullying and mobbing” present and past. It’s like the kinship felt between soldiers who have fought in great battles in famous wars. Horrific violence becomes a part of who a person is, giving them a unique perspective that only fellow victims can truly understand. Just as the “tactics” of our bully bosses are unbelievably similar, the effect on past targets are unbelievably similar as well. It has been a recurring theme, in accounts from past targets, that once free from a hostile workplace, it continues to be a big part of their lives. Being bullied is not easily forgotten. Instead, many targets are left with a new maturity, almost a seriousness, about the importance of respectfulness toward everyone we encounter. In so many ways, targets are doing whatever they can, to reach and teach others about the bullying and mobbing phenomenon. Soon, with our individual and joint efforts, all working Americans will come to know enough, To Recognize it, Name it, and End Workplace Bullying and Mobbing Together! God bless you and all your efforts in this very important cause. ABC

]]> By: Tracy http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-836 Tracy Sun, 20 Sep 2009 22:54:25 +0000 #comment-836 I am an RN with 24 years experience and I have left a job for bullying from my boss, and now it is starting with my new boss. I totally agree with your points, mobbing is one of the most hurtful parts of it all. I teach this to my staff all the time, so I appreciate seeing that I am not alone on this crusade. Thank you for taking a step for all those who can't Tracy I am an RN with 24 years experience and I have left a job for bullying from my boss, and now it is starting with my new boss. I totally agree with your points, mobbing is one of the most hurtful parts of it all. I teach this to my staff all the time, so I appreciate seeing that I am not alone on this crusade. Thank you for taking a step for all those who can’t
Tracy

]]> By: John http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-834 John Wed, 09 Sep 2009 02:32:59 +0000 #comment-834 IMO bully bosses are parly a result of the corporate mindset. In the corporate mindset, there has to be high performers and low performers. So bosses single out people to be their low performer and to receive their bad review. Often it is someone they feel threatened by, or someone they want to tear down because of jealousy of their abilities. I've seen it over and over, and when that person leaves as they always do, another one is selected to be the new low performer. Often simply picked because this person's personality doesn't mesh with this bosses, or they are quiet and most likely not to defend themselves. See bullies single out the weak and vulnerable, the people they think we take their abuse without going to their bosses boss. I've seen this in multiple companies. I believe its the corporate mentality that promotes this behavior. IMO bully bosses are parly a result of the corporate mindset. In the corporate mindset, there has to be high performers and low performers. So bosses single out people to be their low performer and to receive their bad review. Often it is someone they feel threatened by, or someone they want to tear down because of jealousy of their abilities. I’ve seen it over and over, and when that person leaves as they always do, another one is selected to be the new low performer. Often simply picked because this person’s personality doesn’t mesh with this bosses, or they are quiet and most likely not to defend themselves.

See bullies single out the weak and vulnerable, the people they think we take their abuse without going to their bosses boss. I’ve seen this in multiple companies. I believe its the corporate mentality that promotes this behavior.

]]> By: ABC-AntiBullyingCrusador http://antibullyingcrusador.wordpress.com/about/#comment-733 ABC-AntiBullyingCrusador Wed, 13 May 2009 15:43:10 +0000 #comment-733 Dear Indignant2 or should I call you "Clarissa". I have never seen the "office rant" web site until now and have decided to write a short article about this website under "On-line Resources". There's some pretty funny stuff there which certainly lightens up the subject which I think my readers will benefit from. ABC Dear Indignant2 or should I call you “Clarissa”. I have never seen the “office rant” web site until now and have decided to write a short article about this website under “On-line Resources”. There’s some pretty funny stuff there which certainly lightens up the subject which I think my readers will benefit from. ABC

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