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How Can I Stop A Workplace Bully?
Anonymous, on October 20, 2010 at 3:43 AM Said:
Hi I am being bullied by my area manager , I am so stresses idont know what to do or who to go to for help .I cant really pin point what it is that she is doing but she makes me uncomfortable and I am constantely waiting for something to expload .My co worker and myself used to enjoy going to work , work was our second home ,the people their are our family ,we have worked there together for the past 13 yrs and this is the first time we feel stressed to go to work not knowing what is going to happen.we fee lshe wants to get rid of us as we have been there for too long, infact this is what I am hearing from other managers.how can Istop this.
ABC’S Reply
Dear anonymous,
In answer to your question – By the time a person begins to realize that they have become the target of a real workplace bully, it is already, almost impossible to stop it!
When I first learned that I was a target of a “workplace serial bully boss”, the literature I came across, only gave targets like me, a 20% chance of keeping their jobs, while an estimated 80%, lost their jobs within two years. Now, after reading hundreds, perhaps even thousands of articles, target and observers accounts, together with my own observations including the loss of my own job to bullying, I find these estimates to be optimistic at best.
I was devastated by these dismal statistics but was determined to keep the job that I both loved and excelled in for over 25 years. Knowledge is power as they say, which led to an almost obsessive desire to find, read and understand everything I could find on the bullying/mobbing phenomenon, fully believing, that once I understood it, I could beat it.
I learned that Real Bullies, are literally compelled to destroy their targets, due to a level of psychopathy (also called sociopathy). They are not just arrogant and rude, but are hateful, incapable of empathy and normal caring emotions for others.
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*At my work, it changed about mid-late Sept.
Some added stress from extra duties I was trying to do. I was getting a lot of mixed messages. *Miscommuniction/understandings. *One coworker said in a very stern demeaning manner was going to boss and tell them how wrong I was in front of a crowd that should nver have heard this. This coworker was out of line and had no right. didnt even be reasonable about what happened.
* Now is denying that this was said and i am made out to look like a liar.
Now iam being told I am ill and need help?????
Confused…
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