Adult Bullying in The Wake of the Tucson Shootings. By ABC

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Adult Bullying in The Wake of The Tucson Shootings. By ABC

In the wake of the Tucson shootings, “adult bullying” in the United States has finally come forward as a recognizable topic in the media.  Although greatly misunderstood, and called by many other names, the issue of “adult bullying” is now a hot topic of public interest, with multimedia coverage and information sweeping across the nation daily.

President Obama has called for “Civility” in “political rhetoric”.  All sides are standing-down, putting their political agendas on hold, while the bullying behaviors of the political machine, continues to spin unabated and unrecognized as “bullying tactics”.  All the while, an entire nation of bystanders, watching, but not really seeing, that those hoping to gain, by pointing the finger of blame, are at the very core, of all that is wrong, when adults bully other adults.

“Adult bullying” is primarily about perception.  The “adult bully”, by this I mean a person with a level of “psychopathy”, is centered on how they are perceived and compared to, by others. Using tactics such as blame, twisted or half-truths, innuendo, gossip and lies, they are expert manipulators of people’s perception, capable of throwing an adversary’s character into doubt, while elevating their own political, social, or professional standing.

Firmly rooted in reality, able to reason, cope and distinguish the difference between right and wrong,  adult bullies, while having a level of psychopathy, mimic the normal behavior of others, and are not considered mentally ill in the usual sense of the word. These “successful psychopaths” have the appearance of emotional health, while having a diminished or absent ability to experience caring feelings for other people, instead, experiencing a type of satisfaction, with the misfortunes of others.  Our social denial, that people with such serious hidden flaws, really exists, and are a real threat in our day-to-day lives, adds to the prevalence and success of adult bullies, to do harm everywhere.

Can you spot the adult bully(ies), I mean the REAL bully(ies), with a level of psychopathy in this controversy? Here’s a hint; It’s not Sarah Palin.

Learn to Recognize it, Name it and End Adult Bullying and Mobbing Together!


“Soap Opera” Fitting Discription for “Workplace Bullying and Mobbing”. By ABC

Commentary by ABC-

“Workplace Bullying and Mobbing” – A Common News Topic That is Rarely Called What it is.    Let’s Call it What it is

– Workplace Bullying and Mobbing-

Dear Readers,

Below is the beginning of an article, followed by a link to the entire article, titled “Is The Latino Affairs Commission a Soap Opera?” .  This article was published on September 13, 2009, in Connecticut’s largest, and the country’s oldest newspaper, The Hartford Courant.   The story describes the drama of a classic “workplace bullying and mobbing” campaign, unfolding within a government agency, which is then referred to as a “soap opera”.

“Soap Opera” is truly a fitting description for the antics of a workplace bully boss and the bully boss’s little mob, as they go about the business of destroying the most competent members of their staff.  This being a means of effectively eliminating the appearance of their own incompetence, by removing the competent basis of comparison, that bully bosses perceive as a threat.

The drama and high emotion elicited by the bully boss’s tactics of lies, and manipulation of coworkers against their targets, over ridiculous, seemingly trivial matters, is very much the stuff that soap operas are made of. Stories such as this, are published on a regular basis,  drawing the attention of readers to the human interest aspect of these stories, which are often quite literally, unbelievable.

Although Connecticut has a “Bullybusters” group, legislation has been proposed, and articles have been published on this subject, the words “workplace bullying and mobbing” are rarely, if ever used in articles that describe it.  As a result, most people in Connecticut have never even heard of “workplace bullying and mobbing” although have probably either read about it, experienced it or observed it themselves.

Read the article below, a truly prime example of “workplace bullying and mobbing”, then my commentary below it.   ABC


Is Latino Affairs Commission A Soap Opera?

Jon Lender Government Watch September 13, 2009

Twelve months of turmoil have plagued the state’s Latino and Puerto Rican Affairs Commission, and it won’t let up.

First, the commission drew protests in September 2008 when it voted to fired its longtime director, Fernando Betancourt, then backed off on that, and finally negotiated a separation agreement with him two months later.,0,3658764.column

Comment by ABC (published on the on-line edition of The Hartford Courant) 


The story above is a classic case of “Workplace Bullying and Mobbing”.  Few people in Connecticut know of this very common phenomenon which infects many of our workplaces.  At it’s very worse, workplace bullying and mobbing may result in an abused worker “going postal” or committing suicide, which sadly, most Connecticut workers have at least heard of.  More commonly, bullying and mobbing in our workplaces results in depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, high blood pressure and numerous other emotional injuries and stress related physical abnormalities. Once chosen as a “target” of a workplace bully, 80% are eliminated from their workplace within two years. Being a phenomenon, “Workplace bullying and mobbing” is predictable and easily recognized by those who have an understanding of this very complex and difficult to believe problem. It is likely the largest hidden expense in business today and when government agencies are involved, that means increased taxes. When words like “rumors”, “gossip”, threatened”, “intimidated” unprofessional”, “turmoil”, “crying” and “lied about” are used to describe a workplace, look for a “workplace bully” and their little “mob” of supporters. It’s my hope that one day all working Americans will know enough, to Recognize it, Name it, and End Workplace Bullying and Mobbing Together! ABC

The Penalty of Leadership by JoAnn Ryan / Comments by ABC

Dear Readers,

I came across an editorial about “leadership” in the on-line edition of my local newspaper which I thought I would share with all of you.  I liked the information about the attributes of a good leader, but it was what I read between the lines, that caught my attention.  The author quoted Theodore MacManus who describes some of the negative aspects of being perceived by others as “stamped with the seal of genius”, also referred to as “leaders” in this article.  I found it interesting that the author writes about negative behaviors towards those who excel, as normal or as something that should be expected.  As quoted in the article, she perceives these behaviors as the “penalty of leadership” which she states “is a privilege always on our mind”.  Read the article, “The Penalty of Leadership”, which begins below in black type, and brings you to the entire article when you click on the link.  Then read my comments to the author below the article, in red type.   ABC


By,  JoAnn Ryan,  President & CEO of the Northwest Connecticut Chamber of Commerce.

Congratulations to all of the June graduates! This month, I am reminded of the powerful message written by Theodore MacManus my Mom gave to me when I graduated from college. It is worth repeating:

“In every field of human endeavor, he that is first must perpetually live in the white light of publicity. Whether the leadership be vested in a man or in a manufactured product, emulation and envy are ever at work. In art, in literature, in music, in industry, the reward and punishment are always the same.

The reward is widespread recognition; the punishment, fierce denial and detraction…If his work be mediocre, he will be left severely alone – if he achieves a masterpiece, it will set a million tongues a-wagging…Whatsoever you write, or paint, or play or sing, or build, no one will strive to surpass or to slander you unless your work be stamped with the seal of genius.

Long, long after a great work has been done, those who are disappointed or envious, continue to cry out that it cannot be done…The leader is assailed because he is a leader, and the effort to equal him is merely added proof of that leadership…–CLICK ON LINK BELOW FOR COMPLETE ARTICLE

Comments by ABC

ABC – AntiBullyingCrusador wrote on Jun 28, 2009 12:41 PM:

–Quote from article;

Whatsoever you write, or paint, or play or sing, or build, no one will strive to surpass or to slander you unless your work be stamped with the seal of genius-

The quote from the article above is very true, but it’s important to know that those “stamped with the seal of genius” attract negative attention from only a small percentage of people, those with emotional or personality disorders such as Narcissisim.

Emotionally healthy people applaud the successes of others and feel honored to work with and learn from those whose talents and abilities surpass their own.

Then there are the “Narcissists” and people with other emotional and mental disorders who react as if threatened by those who excel.

When in positions of authority in our workplaces, these people may take on the role of a “workplace serial bully boss”. “Workplace bullies” feel threatened by good performers, because it increases their own feelings of inadequacy and shame. Bullies can’t stand to see someone other then themselves shine.

It’s important for “leaders” and those who are highly talented and productive in our workplaces, to understand that negative attention related to their successes, is not a normal response and should not be thought of as something to expect, as a “penalty of leadership”.

Instead, it should be recognized as a red flag that there is something very wrong with the culture of the workplace, known as “the phenomenon of workplace bullying and mobbing”.

All working Americans should learn to recognize it, name it and end workplace bullying and mobbing together!  ABC


GoodLeadership wrote on Jun 28, 2009 8:33 PM: Excellent!! I urge you to distribute your document to all corporate and military leaders. This needs the widest dissemination.


Please attach ABC’s truthful analysis, which, in my view, is worthy of award.

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Anita Bruzzese.

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Anita Bruzzese is a syndicated newspaper columnist on workplace issues for 15 years.  Anita Bruzzese’s “On the Job” column is featured in dozens of newspapers and Web sites every week, with a readership of more than eight million.

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When  Gannett News Service launched the column in 1992, reader response was immediate.  “I thought I was the only one to go through this” was a common refrain in the hundreds of letters that flooded in from Oregon to Florida and all points in between.   Anita Bruzzese is a notable presence in the workplace advice arena, prompting reader feedback from all over the world.  This award-winning journalist consistently delivers critical workplace information to a consumer audience who might not otherwise be aware of the issues she addresses.

One such issue being the phenomenon of “workplace bullying and mobbing”.  Click on the link below to read her article “Is Any Job Worth a Bad Boss?”

Wednesday, October 1, 2008

Is Any Job Worth a Bad Boss?

Comments by ABC

Towards the bottom of this article, the words “bully boss” are underlined indicating that when clicked, you are brought to another link.   That link brings readers to the article on this weblog titled “Tactics of a Workplace Serial Bully Boss”.

Thank you Anita Bruzzese for a great article on this important issue and for linking your “..Bad Boss” article with the “Tactics..” article on this weblog.   Just one more way to get the word out, about the devastating affects of workplace bullying and mobbing, and one more day closer to the day when all working Americans will know enough to Recognize it, Name it, and End Workplace Bullying and Mobbing Together!  Thanks again Anita.   ABC

Click on the link below to reach Anita’s blog titled “45 Things”;

Workplace Bullying, so Unbelievable. Why? By ABC / Is Your Boss a Psychopath. By: Alan Deutschman


Workplace bullying, so unbelievable. Why? By: ABC


Is Your Boss a Psychopath. By: Alan Deutschman


Workplace bullying, So Unbelievable. Why? By: ABC

One of the most difficult things that a target of a “closet” workplace serial bully boss needs to overcome, is getting others to believe that the bullying is actually taking place. Sometimes, it’s even unbelievable to the target themselves, causing them to question their own perception of the bullying events. Targets often torture and blame themselves while searching for the reasons that don’t exist. Everyone they turn to seems skeptical that the bullying is taking place or is as serious as the target states. It’s hard to believe that someone’s boss is trying to destroy them over issues of a trivial nature. Why would someone do that? What would be the motivation, others often ask. It all seems so unbelievable and senseless, even to the target.

The first thing a target is faced with when making allegations of bullying is denial, and at every turn. Everyone the target goes to, from the bully themselves, to the bully’s boss, Human Resources, coworkers, mentors and even family members, doubt the seriousness of the targets predicament. The major reason being, it just doesn’t make sense, as well as many other factors in this very complex phenomenon.

What everyone needs to understand is that bullies have emotional and/or physical brain abnormalities or a level of psychopathy, also referred to as sociopathy. Psychopaths do not think like the rest of us. Therefore, what they say or do, doesn’t make sense to most of us. Most times, there is no valid reason for the bullying behavior at all, other than the bully’s amusement! This is a fact that is hard for most people to believe. Many psychopaths are criminals, referred to as “unsuccessful pyschopaths” in the literature. Then there are “successful psychopaths”. Many of our most successful business leaders were later found to be criminal corporate psychopaths, as the linked article below describes.

Please click on the link below to read about corporate psychopaths. This is a MUST READ. Read how corporate psychopaths think. One amazing fact revealed is that psychopaths have no sense of empathy. Can you imagine that? Read on………………..ABC

Is Your Boss a Psychopath?

By: Alan Deutschman

Odds are you’ve run across one of these characters in your career. They’re glib, charming, manipulative, deceitful, ruthless — and very, very destructive. And there may be lots of them in America’s corner offices.

Revenge In The News, Getting Back at the Bully Boss is Rarely Worth it! By ABC / Women Apologizes For Revenge Against Boss. AP

Revenge, Getting Back at The Bully Boss is Rarely Worth it!

Bullying In the News


Many of my readers reach this website after putting in the search terms “Revenge against bully boss” or similar phrases. I wrote an article on the subject to satisfy my readers’ interests but didn’t give people what they really wanted. Instead, I more or less said that the best revenge is no revenge, but in quite a bit more detail. Here’s a link to that article;

I still stick by that advice although most people are looking for specific things they can do to complicate their boss’s life. So, click on the link below for an example of what one person did, and the unfortunate outcome. By ABC

Hartford Courant

July 25, 2008

Woman Apologizes For Revenge Against Boss

BRISTOL – A Portland woman charged with trying to get the power shut off at her ex-boss’s home is apologizing and says she’s devastated that her actions damaged her reputation. Click on the link below for full story;,0,3801479.story

Read ABC’s on-line comment to this article in The Hartford Courant:

Hi, I am an anti-bullying (workplace bullying that is) activist and have heard and read thousands of target testimonies about their experience with workplace bullies. The majority of targets are not disgruntled, under performers on their jobs, but quite the opposite. Most targets are high performers, and well liked by coworkers but then catches the attention of a workplace bully along their career path who is threatened by their better performing target. 80% of these dedicated workers usually endure two years of emotional abuse before being eliminated through being fired like this women was, becoming physically or emotionally ill or by even committing suicide. When people are literally intentionally destroyed by an incompetent boss after years of dedicated service, they see red and want revenge. People use the search terms “revenge against boss” or similar terms every day to reach my blog. Bosses need to realize that emotionally abusing their workers puts them at risk for revenge. The women in this article only tried to shut off her boss’s electric. someone who’s a bit more angry or emotionally unstable may try to end their boss’s life, as well as their boss’s supporters lives, then they almost always take their own life. It happens all the time in the United States, so often that it is more commonly referred to as “going postal”, a term that most everyone in the United States is familiar with. So to cruel bosses everywhere, beware of revenge, it may end your life! Lets recognize it, name it and end workplace bullying and mobbing together. ABC-Antibullyingcrusador

Those in “Protected Classes” are Winning Workplace Abuse Lawsuits

Those in “Protected Classes” are Winning Workplace Abuse Lawsuits


There has been great national news stories in The United States regarding people in protected classes winning workplace abuse cases. Are you a member of a protected class? Just about everyone is.

Below, is the definition of “protected class” according to the national “Equal Employment Opportunity Program”


Protected Class: The groups protected from the employment discrimination by law. These groups include men and women on the basis of sex; any group which shares a common race, religion, color, or national origin; people over 40; and people with physical or mental handicaps. Every U.S. citizen is a member of some protected class, and is entitled to the benefits of EEO law. However, the EEO laws were passed to correct a history of unfavorable treatment of women and minority group members.


Only those in protected classes, have legal recourse for workplace bullying and mobbing, but only IF they can prove that the abuse was due to discrimination against their protected class. If you’re in a protected class, learn more through the link below. ABC

Click on the link below to reach the national Equal Employment Opportunity Program’s website;


Read three News Articles Below, About Those in Protected Classes, Winning Their Legal Battles


Lesbians sue Citrus Heights police, alleging bias in dismissals

By Stan Oklobdzija –

Last Updated 12:35 am PDT Friday, July 18, 2008
Story appeared in METRO section, Page B3

click on the link below;


2nd Circuit Affirms Award Against Wal-Mart in Disability Bias Case


Jury Awards $1 Million for Sexual Harassment Against Atlantic Automotive

Fri Feb 29, 2008 2:55pm EST
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