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I often feel like I am the problem although the Internet Antibullying articles that I have read, say that’s exactly what they want you to believe, that you are the problem. Do others have this problem? Problem Child
Dear Problem Child,
It broke my heart to read your question. It’s sounds like your bully has you doubting yourself by making you believe that you are at fault for what ever problems she is citing. You must know in your heart that you are not at fault and that this is a VERY COMMON TACTIC of bullies. AGAIN, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!! YOU MUST BELIEVE THIS WITH ALL YOUR HEART!! When bullies make critical comments about you, they are usually projecting their own inadequacies on you. In other words, if the bully says “you’re stupid”, it is the bully who feels stupid. It’s usually the extra good employees who are targeted by bullies because the target’s good performance makes the bully feel more inadequate about themselves by comparison. So be proud to be a “target” of workplace bullying and mobbing. It takes a special person to gain the attention of a bully! Know this and be proud! It is your GOOD qualities that your bully detests. They can’t stand to see another person shine. More and more adult suicides are the result of workplace bullying. It is this very thing that causes it. Targets not understanding this phenomenon become obsessed trying to understand what the cause of their workplace problems are, when there is no real reason at all, other than the whim of a bully. The targets who don’t understand this, blame themselves, sometimes resulting in suicide. How terribly sad! It’s an important public health message that all working American learn to Recognize it, Name it and End workplace bullying and mobbing together! ABC-Antibullyingcrusador.