Workplace, Adult Bully or Successful Psychopath, A Matter of Semantics. By, ABC

Workplace, Adult Bully or Successful Psychopath, A Matter of Semantics. By, ABC

Most everyone in the United States being familiar with the terms “going postal”, are very much affected by the “workplace bullying and mobbing phenomenon”. Very few however, understand what is really meant by these terms. Most, having only heard mention of adults in our workplaces described as “bully(ies)” and more recently in other life circumstances, but are unfamiliar with what is really meant when an adult is referred to as a “bully”.

People in several other English speaking countries, such as the United Kingdom, Australia and Canada, are more familiar with both the terms and the meaning of “workplace bullying and/or adult bullying and mobbing”. These countries being the first to recognize and determine that “adult bullying and mobbing” posed a problem in their workplaces, serious enough, to both educate and legislate against it. The only problem is that people in these countries use the term “bully” or “bullying” in reference to both the schoolyard bullying of childhood, AND when referring to adults who bully, although they are very different in nature. Most child bullies, being simply immature.

When people in the United States first hear about “the adult or workplace bullying and mobbing phenomenon”, most continue to quickly dismiss the notion of an “adult” who is a “bully” or adult(s) who use “bullying and mobbing” behaviors in the workplace. The word(s) “bully(ies)” seeming just too juvenile and petty to associate with a serious problem between adults. Instead, the word “cry baby” comes to mind in reference to the “target”.

It is not understood, that when the word “bully(ies)(ing)” is used to describe behaviors of an adult, who abuses other adults, the meaning becomes more concerning. These adults are thought to think very differently than most of us, having an absent or diminished ability to experience caring, empathetic feelings for other people. They also derive a type of satisfaction over the misfortune of other people , which they often cause by manipulating others covertly through lies and deception against their target(s), this is called “mobbing”.

People in the United States are more familiar with the medical terms “psychopath”, or “sociopath”, when referring to adults who lack or have a diminished ability to have caring feelings for other people.

But most are unaware, that some “psychopaths/sociopaths”, also happen to be highly intelligent, and are referred to medically as “successful psychopaths/sociopath”. They are “successful” in that their intelligence makes it possible for them to recognize and understand that they think differently and lack the caring emotions that other people express. Most “successful psychopaths/sociopaths” consider these differences as an advantage over others, and carefully learn to mimic the normal emotions of others. Their ability to deceive others, by appearing emotionally healthy, while using half truths and blatant lies is stellar. Their intelligence making it possible for them to remember the complex web of lies they weave, to succeed at deceiving everyone’s perception against their target(s}. Most “Adult bullies” in our workplaces more precisely share the characteristics of “successful psychopaths”.

Although most people in the US know some of the facts about psychopaths/sociopaths, most only know it as it pertains to adult abusers in the news, and in both true and fictional stories and movies, depicting heartless crimes against innocent or random victims.

Many feel confident in their ability to recognize and avoid these criminal personalities, not understanding that the psychopaths/sociopaths they read about or see in movies, only represent behaviors typical of psychopaths/sociopaths of average or low intelligence. Their lack of higher intelligence, resulting in their newsworthy arrests and the stuff of tales of crimes gone wrong.

The truth is, “adult bullies” are more precisely, intelligent adults, with a level of “psychopathy/sociopathy”.  Approximately 4% of the general population is comprised of “successful psychopaths”.  Possibly the greatest hidden threat, that the average American adult, is both exposed to, but knows little, or nothing about.

Learn more about “adult bullying and mobbing” and “successful psychopaths/sociopaths” today!  Who knows, the next psychopathic thriller may play out for real, at your workplace, or in other circumstances, where another adult has some type of authority or other advantage over you!


Hatefulness Without Prejudice, Workplace Bullying. by ABC

President of The United States of America

Barrak Obama

Hatefulness Without Prejudice, Workplace Bullying. by ABC

I am in my early 50s and have never been affected by prejudice as a child or as an adult where I live in the state of Connecticut.  I have not been spared from hatefulness however and have learned about one of the most painful types of hatefulness there is.  It is hatefulness without prejudice, an equal opportunity hatefulness, perpetrated for no reason at all, this is referred to as “bullying”.

Children deal with school yard bullies who steal their lunch money and push them in the mud while adults are faced with a more serious version on their jobs, “workplace bullying”.  There are many variations of workplace bullying. The most common type occurs when a manager or supervisor repeatedly abuses their position of power, targeting one subordinate at a time. This is referred to as a “serial workplace bully boss”.  When coworkers become involved, it is called “mobbing”.  “The phenomenon of workplace bullying and mobbing” is little known in The United States, although common and sometimes deadly, being a leading cause of “going postal”, a term that most Americans are familiar with. More frequently, targets are not violent but suffer from stress related physical illnesses such as high blood pressure or emotional injuries, like depression, anxiety, hyper-vigilance,and Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder to name a few.

Targets of workplace bullying and mobbing are rarely believed by others, facing denial at every turn, because hatefulness for no reason, just doesn’t make sense. This type of hatefulness leaves no physical scars, only the emotional distress of a target who becomes obsessed searching for the reasons that first their boss, then their coworkers, turned against them.  Coworkers and bystanders become more skeptical by the target’s emotional distress, while the reasons that targets obsessively search for, simply don’t exist.  Bullies are motivated by physical or emotional mental disorders which compels them to behave in this way. Real bullies, those with a level of “psychopathy” (also referred to as “sociopathy”) are thought to enjoy or feel some kind of satisfaction while causing others emotional distress, and actually plan emotional assaults against their targets.  Many bullies are incapable of feeling empathy or suffer from feelings of inadequacy and shame brought on by harsh early childhood experiences. The best performers on the job may be targeted for this reason.  Bullies cannot be reasoned with because there are no valid reasons for the abuse that they cause, other than the bully’s whim or need to subjugate, control or even eliminate the target from the workplace.  Once chosen as a target, 70% will loss their jobs within two years.

I was brought up to be proud to be an American and was taught that our country of the free, is a place where any child can dream of, and actually become president some day.  Being a girl, I knew this was not true.  Prejudice, although never mentioned, made this dream a lie to all but white, Christian, males.  The results of this past year’s presidential campaign has made this dream real for both children of color and both sexes.

Both Barrack Obama winning the presidential election and the distinction of being the first black president and Hillary Clinton’s unsuccessful but worthy attempt to win the distinction of being the first female president, are positive signs that prejudice, a terrible type of hatefulness, is losing it’s grip against the increasingly popular consensus that all people are created equal.

Can we beat hatefulness without prejudice or reason?  It’s my belief that we can and my mission to reach and teach as many working Americans as possible about this horrible menace in our workplaces.  It’s my hope that one day all working Americans will know the meaning of the terms “workplace bullying and mobbing”. When that day comes, all working Americans will be able to recognize it, name it and end workplace bullying and mobbing together!  Learn more about workplace bullying and mobbing today.  Who knows, you might be the serial bully’s next target.  ABC – AntiBullyingCrusador

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