Revenge, Getting Back at The Bully Boss. By ABC


Revenge, Getting Back at The Bully Boss. (revised edition 5/13/08)

By ABC

I can tell by the search engine stats that my readers are interested in reading something about how to seek revenge against the workplace bully. How do you go about getting back at the workplace bully? A very common question. I have asked myself that very same question dozens of times. The last time was as recently as two weeks ago when a coworker was brutally emotionally bullied. Immediately after, with my outrage still fresh against this senselessness, I wanted more than anything, for the bully to feel the pain that she caused my coworker for no damn good reason at all! At least us victims of work place bullies have a fair reason to want to exact damage on our tormentors. Don’t we? Well yes, but if we intentionally do something that would cause the bully in our life emotional pain, wouldn’t that make us bullies too? Well yes, and that’s only one reason why us targets need to take the higher road.

Almost twenty years ago I learned something from a man named Roy Masters. He runs an organization called The Foundation of Human Understanding. He has always taught that people have a tendency to actually become what they resent. An example being, people who were molested as children have a greater tendency to become a child molester as an adult than someone who was not molested.

Just knowing of this tendency, to become what we resent, leaves me wanting to avoid it, simply by being mindful to do so. To learn more about this principle, and the fascinating teachings of Roy Masters, click on the link to Roy Master’s web site, which is on the blog roll, on the right side-bar of this page.

Another thing that must be considered is the level of pain that the average workplace bully is experiencing already, without our help. Have you ever spent time reading on the Internet about what are thought to be the motives of bullies, causing them to behave in this way? These people are really very mentally or emotionally disturbed individuals. Whether their destructive behaviors are symptoms of a physiological brain abnormality, or whether they are learned behaviors, either way, workplace bullies are not happy people. I suspect that although many of them are incapable of feeling empathy, that they do suffer a type of pain, a kind of pain that we are not familiar with. I believe this pain, this rage, that I have seen in a bully’s eyes, is what drives their destructive behaviors. I believe them to be in a very lonely, dismal place, and deserving of our pity and our prayers.

Although I don’t hesitate to defend myself against a bully, I have yet to utter a cruel lie against one or spread malicious, hateful rumors. It must be considered that it is precisely our reaction to a bully, that will fuel the fire or prove to extinguish it. A major bullying tactic is to provoke a target to anger, then use that angry episode as an example against the target. Being bullied by three different people, in a span of 32 years, I can tell you I reacted in every conceivable way possible. I found out along the way that certain behaviors or reactions are more advantageous than others.

When I was younger, and filled with youthful passion, the senselessness of bullying behavior made me nuts! This too, was way before learning about the phenomenon of workplace bullying and mobbing. When a target knows nothing about bullying and mobbing, the experience they find themselves in, makes no sense at all. It’s creates an emotional crisis, which the target has no experience with. The target may find it hard getting others to believe that their boss is out to destroy them, or to understand the depth of their concern, when accounts of the bully’s issues with the target, often seem rather trivial. And they are trivial. The complaints workplace bullies make against their targets ARE often trivial. The literature calls it “trivial fault finding”. In the United States where most people have never heard the terms “workplace bullying and mobbing”, even the target’s usual sources of support and guidence, often fall short of both understanding and of useful advice.

My less advantageous reactions were made during these early years before understanding the pheonmenon of work place bullying and mobbing. Lashing out angrily is the biggest mistake a target can make only fueling the fire. Don’t give the bully examples of all your negative behaviors. Your bully will use every negative comment against you.

Over the years I’ve come to a place of peace, with the fact of the existence of bullies. I’ve learned to become someone they can no longer provoke. I’ve learned that not reacting, keeps my bully from reacting. If my demeanor is calm and controlled, her’s is. Why? Bullies think in a competitive way. They are always comparing their behavior or performance with that of their target’s, or more importantly, the perception they believe others have. Knowing this, I think she is mindful to behave at least as well as I do. She wouldn’t want it said that I cope, perform or in some other way behave better than she does. Whatever the reason, it’s not really important. What’s important is realizing that my bully’s behavior often mirrors my own, and using that knowledge to my own advantage.

As I’ve matured over the years and through these experiences I’ve become more peaceful as I’ve become less fearful. I now know who they are and what they want. I know they are nothing more than big, bad, old bullies….and there’s nothing scary ’bout bullies no more… Live your life in happiness, and mean no one, no harm. That’s the best revenge there can ever be, is…living life well, despite the bullies… ABC

One Response to “Revenge, Getting Back at The Bully Boss. By ABC”

  1. Its funny, I was curious if there is such away to get even with a former employer with out getting myself into trouble.
    Someone that coldly swiped my life clean right out from under my feet instantly in a very cruel fashion. Ive been in the dark clueless sense, I will never forget or understand what took place. I was threatened and terrified into loosing my job.
    So angry, so grieving, so bitter, so violated, so much hate that I ever had in my life for a person, that I want revenge and feel I cant wait any longer.This is not the true me. This is not my character. At the same time I know that I cant carry this for the rest of my life but I feel the need to get back in such away that it does not cause me trouble or cost me money, like hiring a Attorney. Thats my issue Iam dealing at the moment.
    Its been 7months sense I lost my job. I knew he was preventing me from getting hired. He is fighting against unemployment compensation. So when a mother like me raising a daughter and almost came close to loosing my home and car, almost come close to having no electricity, water ect..Thats enough, I have an iron fist when my childs life is effected. No one takes from my childs life and thats the way I looked at it. I was happy, my daughter was happy.I had everything I was satisfied with in my life. Then suddenly someone can take all that away. How am I ever going to get an Attorney at this point in life when Iam still barely slowy getting back on my feet.? I hear a lot of ugly stories about people who try to fight legally and go through hell for it and could possibly loose more money. Even if I get on my feet eventualy it could take a while to hire an Attorney by then it will be too late. Iam mad and he needs to be sued for the pain, suffering & fear he caused me and my child and loss of money and for all the money I owe people and bills. I say at least 6 -8 thousand dollars.
    Now you see my point but I do see yours because Iam experienced with work place harrasment and my game was to not react, so they get angrier with themselves and I like to see them make a fool out of themselves. The best part of it all, it attracts an audience of glares from others who look at them like they are mentaly sick.
    So thats why I cant believe my behavior out of this. Its not me but I keep visualising this person having such a wonderfull, full filling life. Iam sure he is happy and he is rich. Has a happy family he can support very well. Everyday Iam feeling the need to do something to make him pay for what he put me and my child through.
    I just wanted you to know your website was the first one I clicked on too. I decided not to continue for others options of getting him back after I read this. Someone up there is telling me to keep staying the same person as I always was before I felt like this. Thats the person who Iam and is why I always had many consistant years with employers. I worked for this company for nine yrs except the last 2 of those nine yrs it was a different owner. Though, honestly I still wont forget what Iam still going through because of him. Naturely of course. Everyday is a reminder. Hopefully in time things will look up and maybe I wont care to think of him anymore or maybe there still might be a chance down the road if its not to late to get an attorney.
    Thankyou, Iam glad you were the first website I clicked on to. To remind me of who Iam and I realize I need to not to forget that. I realize he is still controling my life in such away because I let him get the best of me especialy my sanity but I know that if I continue this kind of behavior I could crack up and could damage my thinking process to keep moving forward in a possitive way.

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    ABC replies;

    Dear Katie,
    Wow! I could feel the hate as you describe your bully boss! God Bless You! and thank you so much for sharing! I was hoping that somebody would comment on this article and I am so glad that you did! People who have never been bullied need to understand how brutally deep a bully can affect a target’s emotions. People need to understand that targets are in a position in which someone, the bully, is literally trying to destroy them. This deeply affects them.

    If you only read this one article, you may not know that I too, am a “target” of workplace bullying and mobbing and truly empathize with your experience. I too, was perfectly happy, in fact I loved my job, until my bully took all of it. First, everything at work, my management position, my professional reputation, relationships with coworkers and the opportunity to network and work together with colleagues. She even put barriers around my desk at one point, isolating me from coworkers, despite knowing that I am hearing impaired. She worsened my health and emotionally injured me, resulting in anxiety, depression, and PTSD. I had days when I literally went hungry, nearly losing my home to foreclosure, after being on a medical leave of absence for several months. I had become anxious and fearful that my bully boss would fire me without notice, or real cause, and that I would suddenly lose my disability and medical insurance benefits. The stress of all of this, spilled into every aspect of my life, and my marriage suffered horribly. I’ve cried buckets of tears, and lost or wasted so much, in so many ways, all at the hands of a workplace SERIAL bully boss. “Serial” meaning she repeatedly, first chooses, then abuses, then eliminates from the job, a “target”. My anger is therefore not only for myself, but for everyone else, who I’ve seen her abuse.

    There was a period of time many years ago, with a different bully, in which I even fantasized about shooting her through the window of her office, and getting away with the crime. One silent shot to the head. No pain, not even a moment of fear. I thought how generous I was being in my fantasy, by dispatching her painlessly.

    Even in my fantasies, I never really wanted to hurt her, or to hurt anyone for that matter. The difference being, is that people like you, and people like me, are just not bullies. It is not in our nature to be hateful to anyone, not even a bully. Live your life in happiness, and mean no one, no harm. That’s the best revenge there can ever be, is…living life well, despite the bullies…

    God bless you, and thank you for being you, and for not changing who you are, due to the influence of a workplace bully. ABC

  2. Read your response. Like I said, I never went on to look up things for revenge after reading that. I kind of got sick to my thoughts the way I was thinking. Here it is 7months later and every now and then I have a bad day and my reaction of thoughts automaticly kicks in anger and bitterness. Then I start to blame him and wish I could just make him realize what he has put me through. I know Iam not the only one that has problems, and I know that anger is really a waste of energy and has no use and never solves anything but causes more stress and is like carrying baggage through your life. I read so many books on stuff like that too. Why from time to time do I tend to forget or ignore the things I learned not just from reading but working for so many years of my life? I dont know but Iam glad I eventualy catch myself and realize its so childish.
    When I was looking the other day for revenge tactics I was looking for something that I can maybe put out in the media which would be true not lies anyways or some kind of blogs to complain about and to beware of his bussiness. Which would be all true too, hehe. Or something funny that who knows I might have regret it if I got carried away.
    So far Iam still fighting unemployment over him so I know he has to keep replying to them all the time.WEll that isnt really getting back, just a reminder for him everyday he is still dealing with me. I know I would never want to do anything illegal or harm no one. Its not in me. Sometimes I felt I never wanted to give up trying to find away to get back at him in the past first few months after loosing my job. So I tryed complaining to his headquarters, tryed to get help to investigate his bussiness through a news station, complained to the head office of unemployment, sent a complaint to civil rights organization. Guess what? no response. I thought these people must think iam nuts when I truly in my heart thought I had a case that should be looked into. I felt like a fool, like I must be a laughing stock here. I think that is what really got to me then. A couple months go by and again I get into one of my mood swings.
    I just do not think its right that an employer can all of a sudden decides to threaten you and fire you, scare you so much that Iam scared to trust working for anyone anymore. Its because I was not prepared to loose my job this way.So sudden and before you know it the unknown whats going to happen down the road is frightening. He was the only one I had a problem with. Everyone else, that is the employers, were all good people. I loved my job and the people that I worked with. My previous mannager was upset about the way the owner handled the situation with me. At the time he was at another location working while I was working with a manager in training at our location. The owner has severel bussinesses. Anyways he has done some sneaky underhanded things with both the manager and me. Like bouncing our pay checks and tryed to fight it. So sometimes I wished I never worked for him and wished I followed my instincts when I saw the first signs of feeling unconfortable about him and not trusting him. If I had followed those instincts and started looking for another job long ago maybe I would not be in this situation. Sometimes we cant see the future but its here and I just have to move on. I can wish I did this and done that and Its unfair and is not right. This is life and I need to get over it.
    So hey Iam feeling myself again to day and I have to say that so far I did make it this far and still have my home but still struggling slowly. Iam ok and I need to say that there are so many people right now that are out of jobs for one reason or another. Iam sure there are people who are worse off than me. So I do try to keep that in mind. Especialy after reading your website.
    Iam sorry for what you went through, similar to me. Nice to know that we are human and we are not the only ones that hurt right now and while we are healing others are going through their pain and turmoil. You been through alot it sounds like. Thankyou for sharing your experience. So keep your web site going you might be able to help someone again.

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  1. Its funny, I was curious if there is such away to get even with a former employer with out getting myself into trouble.
    Someone that coldly swiped my life clean right out from under my feet instantly in a very cruel fashion. Ive been in the dark clueless sense, I will never forget or understand what took place. I was threatened and terrified into loosing my job.
    So angry, so grieving, so bitter, so violated, so much hate that I ever had in my life for a person, that I want revenge and feel I cant wait any longer.This is not the true me. This is not my character. At the same time I know that I cant carry this for the rest of my life but I feel the need to get back in such away that it does not cause me trouble or cost me money, like hiring a Attorney. Thats my issue Iam dealing at the moment.
    Its been 7months sense I lost my job. I knew he was preventing me from getting hired. He is fighting against unemployment compensation. So when a mother like me raising a daughter and almost came close to loosing my home and car, almost come close to having no electricity, water ect..Thats enough, I have an iron fist when my childs life is effected. No one takes from my childs life and thats the way I looked at it. I was happy, my daughter was happy.I had everything I was satisfied with in my life. Then suddenly someone can take all that away. How am I ever going to get an Attorney at this point in life when Iam still barely slowy getting back on my feet.? I hear a lot of ugly stories about people who try to fight legally and go through hell for it and could possibly loose more money. Even if I get on my feet eventualy it could take a while to hire an Attorney by then it will be too late. Iam mad and he needs to be sued for the pain, suffering & fear he caused me and my child and loss of money and for all the money I owe people and bills. I say at least 6 -8 thousand dollars.
    Now you see my point but I do see yours because Iam experienced with work place harrasment and my game was to not react, so they get angrier with themselves and I like to see them make a fool out of themselves. The best part of it all, it attracts an audience of glares from others who look at them like they are mentaly sick.
    So thats why I cant believe my behavior out of this. Its not me but I keep visualising this person having such a wonderfull, full filling life. Iam sure he is happy and he is rich. Has a happy family he can support very well. Everyday Iam feeling the need to do something to make him pay for what he put me and my child through.
    I just wanted you to know your website was the first one I clicked on too. I decided not to continue for others options of getting him back after I read this. Someone up there is telling me to keep staying the same person as I always was before I felt like this. Thats the person who Iam and is why I always had many consistant years with employers. I worked for this company for nine yrs except the last 2 of those nine yrs it was a different owner. Though, honestly I still wont forget what Iam still going through because of him. Naturely of course. Everyday is a reminder. Hopefully in time things will look up and maybe I wont care to think of him anymore or maybe there still might be a chance down the road if its not to late to get an attorney.
    Thankyou, Iam glad you were the first website I clicked on to. To remind me of who Iam and I realize I need to not to forget that. I realize he is still controling my life in such away because I let him get the best of me especialy my sanity but I know that if I continue this kind of behavior I could crack up and could damage my thinking process to keep moving forward in a possitive way.

    ——————————————————————————————–
    ABC replies;

    Dear Katie,
    Wow! I could feel the hate as you describe your bully boss! God Bless You! and thank you so much for sharing! I was hoping that somebody would comment on this article and I am so glad that you did! People who have never been bullied need to understand how brutally deep a bully can affect a target’s emotions. People need to understand that targets are in a position in which someone, the bully, is literally trying to destroy them. This deeply affects them.

    If you only read this one article, you may not know that I too, am a “target” of workplace bullying and mobbing and truly empathize with your experience. I too, was perfectly happy, in fact I loved my job, until my bully took all of it. First, everything at work, my management position, my professional reputation, relationships with coworkers and the opportunity to network and work together with colleagues. She even put barriers around my desk at one point, isolating me from coworkers, despite knowing that I am hearing impaired. She worsened my health and emotionally injured me, resulting in anxiety, depression, and PTSD. I had days when I literally went hungry, nearly losing my home to foreclosure, after being on a medical leave of absence for several months. I had become anxious and fearful that my bully boss would fire me without notice, or real cause, and that I would suddenly lose my disability and medical insurance benefits. The stress of all of this, spilled into every aspect of my life, and my marriage suffered horribly. I’ve cried buckets of tears, and lost or wasted so much, in so many ways, all at the hands of a workplace SERIAL bully boss. “Serial” meaning she repeatedly, first chooses, then abuses, then eliminates from the job, a “target”. My anger is therefore not only for myself, but for everyone else, who I’ve seen her abuse.

    There was a period of time many years ago, with a different bully, in which I fantasized about shooting her through the window of her office and getting away with the crime. Gone in one silent shot. No pain, not even a moment of fear. I thought how generous I was being in my fantasy, by dispatching her painlessly.

    Even in my fantasies, I never really wanted to hurt her, or to hurt anyone for that matter. The difference being, is that people like you, and people like me, are just not bullies. It is not in our nature to be hateful to anyone, not even a bully. Live your life in happiness, and mean no one, no harm. That’s the best revenge there can ever be, is…living life well, despite the bullies…

    God bless you, and thank you for being you, and for not changing who you are, due to the influence of a workplace bully. ABC

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  2. Read your response. Like I said, I never went on to look up things for revenge after reading that. I kind of got sick to my thoughts the way I was thinking. Here it is 7months later and every now and then I have a bad day and my reaction of thoughts automaticly kicks in anger and bitterness. Then I start to blame him and wish I could just make him realize what he has put me through. I know Iam not the only one that has problems, and I know that anger is really a waste of energy and has no use and never solves anything but causes more stress and is like carrying baggage through your life. I read so many books on stuff like that too. Why from time to time do I tend to forget or ignore the things I learned not just from reading but working for so many years of my life? I dont know but Iam glad I eventualy catch myself and realize its so childish.
    When I was looking the other day for revenge tactics I was looking for something that I can maybe put out in the media which would be true not lies anyways or some kind of blogs to complain about and to beware of his bussiness. Which would be all true too, hehe. Or something funny that who knows I might have regret it if I got carried away.
    So far Iam still fighting unemployment over him so I know he has to keep replying to them all the time.WEll that isnt really getting back, just a reminder for him everyday he is still dealing with me. I know I would never want to do anything illegal or harm no one. Its not in me. Sometimes I felt I never wanted to give up trying to find away to get back at him in the past first few months after loosing my job. So I tryed complaining to his headquarters, tryed to get help to investigate his bussiness through a news station, complained to the head office of unemployment, sent a complaint to civil rights organization. Guess what? no response. I thought these people must think iam nuts when I truly in my heart thought I had a case that should be looked into. I felt like a fool, like I must be a laughing stock here. I think that is what really got to me then. A couple months go by and again I get into one of my mood swings.
    I just do not think its right that an employer can all of a sudden decides to threaten you and fire you, scare you so much that Iam scared to trust working for anyone anymore. Its because I was not prepared to loose my job this way.So sudden and before you know it the unknown whats going to happen down the road is frightening. He was the only one I had a problem with. Everyone else, that is the employers, were all good people. I loved my job and the people that I worked with. My previous mannager was upset about the way the owner handled the situation with me. At the time he was at another location working while I was working with a manager in training at our location. The owner has severel bussinesses. Anyways he has done some sneaky underhanded things with both the manager and me. Like bouncing our pay checks and tryed to fight it. So sometimes I wished I never worked for him and wished I followed my instincts when I saw the first signs of feeling unconfortable about him and not trusting him. If I had followed those instincts and started looking for another job long ago maybe I would not be in this situation. Sometimes we cant see the future but its here and I just have to move on. I can wish I did this and done that and Its unfair and is not right. This is life and I need to get over it.
    So hey Iam feeling myself again to day and I have to say that so far I did make it this far and still have my home but still struggling slowly. Iam ok and I need to say that there are so many people right now that are out of jobs for one reason or another. Iam sure there are people who are worse off than me. So I do try to keep that in mind. Especialy after reading your website.
    Iam sorry for what you went through, similar to me. Nice to know that we are human and we are not the only ones that hurt right now and while we are healing others are going through their pain and turmoil. You been through alot it sounds like. Thankyou for sharing your experience. So keep your web site going you might be able to help someone again.

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  3. Like Katie H., I too have been contemplating revenge against a bullying boss. Revenge is something I never wasted my time an energy on. Katie, thank lyou for your words; I have been unable to fully communicate the degree of pain and hurt I feel until now. You said EVERYTHING I have been feeling and going through.

    I quite my job in April 2008. I HAD a 24 year career in state government, 9 years in that particular office. It is now mid-November and I still cannot find a job, even at one third my previous pay. To make matters worse, the econoomy has tanked. This woman was my supervisor for two years, yet has managed to wipe out everything I have worked for in that short period. Of course, it felt like an eternity while I was enduring it.

    I really do not know what to do next. I have no money, no prospects. I received notice fom unemployment today that since there was no evidence of unreasonable supervision on her part, my employment there will not be used to calculate my unemployment. How idiotic is that? Of course there would be no evidence. What is she going to say? “Why, yes! I did bully that employee until she was an emotional wreck and she was forced to resign.” And after 9 years, there is no other job to base my unemployment benefits on. I feel like I am be victimized again.

    This woman has stolen my livelyhood from me and my daughter. She is a licensed counselor, so she not only abuse her power in order to bully me, she abused her professional training, training meant to help people. How disgusting is that?

    Thank you for your website. I’m hoping it can help me find a way to heal and move on. I have to, I have no other choice. I am a single mom with a daughter to support.

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  4. I reread your article again this morning. To be truthful, Katie H’s post was more helpful to me. It helps to know there are others out there dealing with a storm of negative emotions. I am finding it difficult to “find the higher ground” when, on the same day, I learn that I am denied unemployment and my former boss is taking yet another cruise (she takes several each year). I am struggling to feed, cloth and house my daughter and myself, and she is living the high life. Yeah, I feel really bad for that sociopath.

    Yes, I do believe she is a sociopath. She has not taken a life, but she has destroyed many for no other reason than her own amusement. This woman lacks a conscience. And like many others, I find myself outraged that this sociopath goes unpunished, free to destroy again and again. So, perhaps my feelings for revenge are not totally misplaced.

    There is only one thing that prevents me from seeking revenge: she is not worth the legal ramifications that would almost certainly follow such actions. But believe me when I say, if I ever find a legal way to cause her as much harm as she has caused my daughter and me, I will do it. Legal action would be a waste of time and money; we all know the difficulty in winning a suit against a government agency. Perhaps one day I will be able to hire a Private Investigator to dig up dirt on her, something that will destroy her. It’s a nice fantasy, anyway.

    More information on recovering from bully attacks would be more helpful than the “take the higher road” speech. Having no money and no insurance, seeing a therapist is not possible right now. I have been trying to find information on healing oneself emotionally, but no luck. If anyone knows of a website with this information, I would appreciate if you would pass it on.

    Thanks for letting me rant.

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  5. ABC’S Response to Annie:

    Dear Annie,
    Thank you for you comments. I am so sorry you were bullied, and lost your job as a result. You didn’t deserve it, nobody does. Your comments, demonstrate how deeply bullying affects targets, and how people heal and recover in different ways. Some, like Katie, don’t let their anger change who they are, and move on, while others, become what they resent, a bully.

    Like I also said, “I don’t hesitate to defend myself against a bully.” That said, to be truthful, I felt bullied by some of your comments in your second post. I never suggested your feelings of revenge were misplaced. To the contrary, I shared my own fantasy of revenge in my response to Katie. I don’t expect readers to agree with everything I write and welcome varying opinions. Comments, such as referring to my article as a “speech” and implying that a visit to my site offered “no luck” and asking for information about better websites are comments that do not offer a varying opinion, nor add value to the subject matter. They are disrespectful and mean spirited, in other words, they are tactics of a bully.

    Behaving like a bully doesn’t necessarily mean that you are a bully. We all lose our temper from time to time saying things that are hurtful. After calming down, a normal person will realize the error of their ways and apologize. A bully, on the other hand, sees nothing wrong with their behavior, and will never apologize.

    I do hope you stop by this website again sometime, as there really are dozens of articles as well as links to other Websites, which may help you with your emotional recovery. Two sources of help that I found to be especially helpful are: Bullyonline – likely the best source of information in the world, and Nineveh – an internet support group that has helped me tremendously in my own emotional recovery. There are articles about both of these resources on this weblog, which include working links to get you to these sites, at the click of your mouse. You will find them under “On-Line Resources,” in the index, which runs down the left side of this page.

    These sites will give you the knowledge and the support of interacting with other targets that you need. I do hope that you find this information to be helpful. ABC

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  6. Patrick Maina’s comment has been changed to a feature article. Please read Patrick’s article “Life After Office Mobbing – A Fresh Perspective” which is an edited version with an added author’s bio. of Patrick’s original comment that he wrote in this space. ABC

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  7. ABC responds to Patrick Maina

    GOD BLESS YOU PATRICK ! What an awesome message ! Thank you for the gift of these words. So very inspiring, I can feel the energy. I think I’ll throw out the list of accusations and keep a copy of these words nearby instead. Thank you,
    ABC

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  8. When I was targeted by my bully and mobbed I had no idea what was being done to me at the time. I did not know people did things like this to each other. Fortunately I had reached a retirement milestone so I was leaving anyway.

    Months later when I found out about mobbing I wanted the person to be held accountable for what she did to me, and to possibly prevent her from doing it to someone else, more so than to seek revenge.

    In my opinion I now feel that will never happen because HR at the large company where this occurred, I feel suffers from a combination of incompetence and an almost hostile indifference to its employees.

    I don’t just base this on my mobbing but with other dealings I and others had with HR at that organization. In many organizations, ombudsmen, employee support, handbook procedures mean nothing. Many times, as I found out, in a mobbing situation you are just hung out to dry by management.

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  9. I’ve read several entries on bullies and mobbing and know this is happening to me. My integritity and charector is under attack due to my inability to “fight back” without fear of total reprocussion from the “bully”. HR is not even an option, they are management and won’t help. I don’t know what to do.

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  10. Unless you want to write everything down, go to tribunal and sue thus jeaphardising other job opportunities then I would say find another job, you’ll get no support and revenge will backfire. I wrongly approached hr with no allies, I ended up isolated, humiliated and disrespected and it continues. I’m still here because they need my work but I’m miserable and lonely. Its unfortunare that most managers including hr. Managers are control freaks and bullies, its how they got to be managers.

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  11. I have another opionion on this type of behavior in the workplace (being a bully). I have a friend that refuses to give into this practice at any position. There have been a few times in his life when he was faced with this situation. However, instead of doing nothing and remaining the victim, he fought back. Often times being immoral and border-line illegal. These actions were not beneficial in his career (since most of the time that a bully tries to cause problems in a job they are successful (or they wouldn’t be bullies)), however, I spoke to him recently regarding his actions and he feels great satisfaction in getting back at his attacker. He feels that his actions not only get back at the bully but insure that this bully will think twice about acting again. Also, he feels that his revenge reduce the amount of bullying that occurs in the workplace simply by word of mouth.

    I have to agree with his opinion. If you do not act you are most definitely causing yourself some major issues to deal with (while the bully probably doesn’t think about you at all or feels pretty good that he was successful). Also, if you do nothing you are definitely insuring that the bully will act again.

    When I say act, I mean legally, do some research, there are ways that you can tell your story to people in a way that there is a documented history of actions of the bully so that at least his bosses know this as well as other people that will have interaction with him. It is not illegal to publish your opinion or factual information on websites and it is not illegal to send emails to people stating your opinions or factual events that occur.

    Think about this, if you saw a bully punch someone in face, would you stand there and do nothing?

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  12. Thank you to all. I will bring copies of the statements to my therapist with the hope it will educate him further and reduce the pain for others having similar issues that I have endured for several months. I wish that know one feels the anquish of PTSD and severe anxiety other than the bully and hench men that inflict the pain in the work place.

    America needs to wise up and find a remedy to curb this epidemic.

    P

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  13. hello abc,

    what does one do when the bullies turn the tables and accuse you, the target, of being the initiator? In other words, I’m the bully? i know this is happening because I’ve gotten some very strange reactions from people I don’t even know.

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  14. I really appreciate people’s comments. I have been bullied and lost my job twice from this. I currently have a job for one year and recently realized that this boss too is a bully. There was the honeymoon- then attack- then peace- then attack. The attacks are getting worse. I pray for the strength this time to get out before they destroy me. I’m trying to do this different this time. She ripped my face off for something so trivial I was just incredulous- and she is in trouble for basically not doing her work- though admired by most as a top expert in her field. I bail her out all the time. That stops.
    I am looking for a new job and again, pray for the strength to realize that it really is what it is- and cannot be anything else ever- so my only decent choice is to get out while/if I can.

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  15. I had been successful at prior jobs then had 2 jobs where I had been (now know) bullied. I am lucky I work for a great company/boss now – I actually have 2 departments fighting over me now – I am appreciated like I was before meeting bullies. This gives me a great prospective on what had happed to me at the 2 jobs in a row – where I was convinced there was something wrong with me, I was even fired from the last of the 2 jobs for “not meeting expectations” while being 8 months pregnant (on my 8th month of employment).(I did not want to risk losing the child as what happened 3 month before because of the stress of being bullied – so I did not fight back – just let it happen)
    Having said that, do agree that what people fear they have inclination to become themselves. So I do want to avoid that. However, since my childhood I had been called “the fighter for justice” which i actually do not find flattering – but can’t escape the urge. I went to lunch yesterday with a lady from the place of my first bully boss, and I found out that 2 of my successors are currently being bullied as were 2 of my predecessors. I did not know what it was called at the time – I am 100% sure neither do prior or subsequent current targets. I actually just learned the term and all this myself about a month ago. Up until now – for the last 3 years I was trying to rationalize the situation and blame myself… Anyway, I want to bring at least my first bully down. All 5 people including me filed complaints against the bully with local HR (one person). I am thinking now would be a good time to turn the head office attention to the matter. I do believe bullies need to be stopped. I understand they hurt and are not happy people, but come on, we may say we feel sorry for the torment that psycho-killers go through – but we do want them where they can’t hurt anyone. I know that’s maybe an extreme comparison, but I lost my child (that’s one dead person), my face was twitching in places I never knew I had nerves. We may not even know of the people that killed themselves on account of a bully like that. So, I am not talking about revenge per se, but about stopping a former bully. Educating anyone we know, finding and making aware the higher authority of companies where possible (a lot of companies are really working on minimizing liability – true or perceived). So let’s come up with some constructive ways to stop and prevent bullying as regular people. I’d like to know things I can do on my own now to stop/curb the bullies I know. I would donate money to a fund that fights for putting laws to curb such things – I found a site – but they don’t take donations from people – they just ask for legislative support from government officials…
    Please have some suggestions on constructive curbing/preventing former bullies rather just trying to find inner peace knowing that it was not my fault. I understand current ones are hard to do – but former – lets come up with something.

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  16. I worked for a very creative talented and abusive person on and off for about a year. There was the honeymoon period then they would get abusive and so on. They got really viscious with me at times and vindictive. To me, getting revenge at this point is picking myself up and going on and just recovering. These people- like my former boss and ex friend- are miserable and maladjusted jerks. I was told to shut the f up, that I was stupid, belittled in front of others, and so forth… The worst part of it was there being inconsistent and going from hot to cold all the time.
    I believe in you reap what you sow and in my case I told them f you, you don’t treat me like a person. The worst part of it was they tried to turn the tables on me and make it like I was the bad guy. People like that reap what they sow and one day they will mess with the wrong person.
    Speaking from experience, as someone who got to see a “bully boss” private life up close consider this- your bully boss may have no friends, a dysfunctional relationship, an alchohol or gambling problem, or been hurt by other people, or been abused by their parents or relatives. Often times people in the community know how difficult this person is and are not surpised you are no longer working for them.
    I used to think this person cared about me as they could be very generous but I have come to believe that they only did that to reel me in and give me a false sense of security. It is amazing how fast someone can turn on you.
    I have had fantasies of revenge but deep down I know that the revenge is in the fact they are miserable people and in the end it is the bully boss loss because they are driving away people and employees that want to do good work for them but are prevented from doing so because they are treated like crap!! So even though they may not realize it- their behaviour really hurts them in the end.
    I have a feeling my ex boss and ex friend will wind up a very lonely person one day. So in the end I do believe these people get what is coming to them- for every action there is a reaction- even though we might not be around to see it.

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  17. I also had no idea that people could be so cruel. I taught for 6 years for a school district and never had a bad appraisal or relationship with a principal. In fact, I have never had a bad relationship with a boss EVER.
    Then I switched schools and teaching position and within 2 weeks was written up and threatened with my job. I had no idea how to react to this and cried in front of the bully. I regret that to this day as she sat calmly seemingly gloating.
    I later learned from several other staff that this person has a reputation for targeting people. I then asked around and sure enough several co-workers had experienced her wrath. She is an assistant principal who has been given all the power in the school, because the Principal is gutless and passive. I have spoken with several people in HR and they definitely are biased towards principals. Over the course of the year I became very depressed and lost all belief in myself. I went to therapy and was medicated. As the year progressed she had me on a growth plan and had my own teaching team reporting any mistakes I made to her as part of my appraisal.
    I then learned that I can’t trust my co-workers who were supposed to train me how to do my job well.
    It has taken me all year to finally have peace. I just simply don’t care anymore. No matter how many hours extra I work or how well my kids have scored on standardized tests, she will still be a bully and treat me poorly.
    I realized that this is on her. She should be ashamed to be that type of “leader”. She is scum and I will not work at this school next year, even if it means unemployment. She has taken too much from me this year already. In fact, I’m angry at myself for giving so much when this school clearly doesn’t appreciate it. That is why this school will not be successful. If you treat the teachers like dirt they won’t feel good about teaching and what they may have to offer. I am so sorry for anyone going through this as it is so hard to wrap your brain around.

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    • Dear Jane,
      I am so glad that you see this situation for what it is and the fact that “she has taken too much” from you. You are very wise to move on. This is her failure not yours, which you have the sense to realize. Best of luck in finding the job of your dreams! ABC

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  18. Wow, Jane, it sends shivers up and down my spine. I get it. I am walking in your shoes right now, just a different profession. I have read in Tim Fields book on Bully INsight that teachers and nurses are high in bully population. I have been through absolute hell with this bully stuff in the past 10 months. I am almost ready to give them over to each other and let them eat each other for lunch….lol. However I have had a bit of success. They now have refused to work with me, saying that I am “unsafe”. So today I got my assignment from the manager above them (yes, three of THEM) and I got to do my job….lol!! They are all pissed off that I am actually back at work and I was not fired…..hahahaha. They are so insecure and two out of three of them are extremely crappy at their jobs. I have even been told that it is my fault because I make them look bad!!! Can you believe it.
    Hang in there….the end of june is coming soon. You are there for the kids…..keep posting. I need to hear from you…..

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  19. Recently I was able to meet with my bully during yet another write-up. I feel so good about how it went. Basically I very calmly told her that 3 different people tag-teaming me is a very poor management style. I also (very calmly) stated that I refused to sign the write-up because it is petty and small minded and that I didn’t do anything wrong. I told her That this pettiness is distracting me from teaching. I said I am at peace with whatever they decide to do, but stop bothering me with and let me do my job teaching-which is why I am there. Then one of her tag team members walked in and was visibly angry and upset with me. I am most certain she was outside the closed door listening in. She said” so is she going to sign it?” I said I wasn’t completely refusing but that I didn’t agree with it and that I needed the weekend to think about it. Then she stood up and very angrily stated she didn’t have time for this and that I always have some excuse. She also had the audacity to say that I am “flip.” how sad as this shows she is clueless to the heartache and stress they have caused me. I am not flip and was trying to be as calm and rational as possible. She said how disappointed she was and walked out. Then bully 1 said she had to leave for a meeting. Funny, if I did that I would get written up,
    I have to say it did upset me because I really felt scared by the second bully. This was someone I used to think highly of until I worked directly for her. Again, as I stated before, this is such a poor management style. Threatening people with their jobs isn’t the way to motivate and inspire. Bullying people has been proven as an ineffective long-term method for quality job performance. They are the losers. I want to do a good job! I love teaching and want to love coming to work. Some days I wonder if I.m in the twilight zone!

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  20. my fiance is my bully. starting when he was due to serve 6-7 months in prison, I was working at Pizza Hut delivering pizzas for $7.00 + tips. I was able to pay on all 5 of my bills. came the week he needed to go, I had to quit my job to run his shop. I was pretty much organized when it came to me paying my debts. I had all my bills and final dates bills would be paid to the T. I really didnt want to quit my job b/c in my thought the economy would crash especially on jobs and my bills wouldve been paid in 9-2011 then we have kids two at that and I wanted to wait to quit my job dec. 2011. I proposed me going down to part time. According to him I needed to quit my job w/ no return blah blah blah. So dumb me does that under the agreement that once he’s out I give him a refresh and go out to look for a job. That was the plan. I was getting paid $150.00 on a weekly- money $50.00 on his prison comissary on a weekly as well, and god forbid if I knew I wasn’t going to have the money he’d throw a fit, like a full grown grown baby. Well he was released and once that happened he must have forgotten our agreement. He came home in Dec. of 09. I tried refreshing him on accounts, in one ear and out the other. febuary he sold the car he bought for me, I didn’t see not one penny so then i was jobless and carless then once he was back my $150.00 eneded. When I tried sitting down to see what is going on with this arrangement I dont think he comprehended anything of what I said b/c he’d start talking about something that had nothing to do with what I had to say. I do somewhat think he was trying to get back at me b/c I had called his probation officer on him b/c yes he was on probation. He had left on a Monday taking the bank card with him. I had deposited my $396.00 check straight into my account plus a check for $829 which was for a bill I sent the check off to pay. Like I said he left Monday Tuesday I realized I didnt have the bank card so on my brake at work, in which he took off in the vehicle we were sharing at the time I had to use his mom’s car and a big ol cargo van to get back and forth to work and pick our kids up in. Well Tuesday I call the banks 800 number. Money was being used and what I couldn’t understand is how and why, he knew it wasn’t his money and he knew what I was to use the money for. Well Wednesday night he must have tried going home but of coarse no gas so he tried getting gas and I had went to the bank and closed the account out. So every week out of my direct deposit the bank was taking the money from me that he had messed around. So I called his probation officer to let them know what was going on, b/c at this point I was tired of it and felt he need help, when he’d go to a meet, of coarse he’s goin gto pretend to be a better person, but I knew. That wasn’t the first time he’d be gone for days doing drugs but the first he used my money for that crap. But everysince he’s been out he’s just really rude like, he think what ever I say is wrong he wants to know how I know that or google it? or I shouldn’t have a right to say anything b/c to him I got it good, we live with his parents. I come from a strong single parent home which may be a weakness but why treat someone the way you do, especially when you do nothing? I had tried college after high school. I didn’t get too far in that but told myself later on in my life I will & when I do, I will complete it. I started summer session he went to jail and I had to skip Tuesday class to go stand up there and visit him. I try to just keep moving forwad in life, I will never forget about the past but I can’t go back and relive it/ make some changes. Without having a gaurenteed transportation back and forth to a job, I went out and filled out applications like there was no tomorrow. Nobody has called me back. He still throwing demands at me but when I ask about me being paid or something for being at his shop 4-6 days a week, I got it good is all he can say. Then when he do give me money after months of supposively getting $250.00 a week he still got a issue or what I did wasn’t right and he starts a complaint w/ me. Even if he’s around friends and we are all chit chatting, everybody including him can say whatever whenever, but as soon as i say something that is not hurting to any body or downing any body realivant to topic, I don’t know what I’m talking about then I got it good. To me it’s almost as he down grate me for a self false hypothosis he came up with. I just think he need a good butt whooping then he sit there skin and grin w/ these ppl he call friends but always quick to say something about how Carina isn’t very bright, but also in her face when she come around. How can I give this bully what he deserves w/ out duck taping him to his favorite chair and pouring gasoline everywhere in his shop including him and throwing a match to it?

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  21. I am coming to the philosophy that the best way to defeat your enemies is to outlive them. Keep yourself safe, out of the firing line and one day they’ll trip on their own swords.

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  22. I’m pretty drunk but i cant help thinking what complete bullshit.

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    • Eric is obviously a bully however the denial and drunkedness cannot block his pain and the guilt, so today suffers the fallout as now he is a victim of the mob

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  23. I think that continued negative social behaviours in the workplace should be criminalised. Intimidation in the workplace should be as much a crime as intimidation in any other context. The same principle should be applicable to victimisation etc. Government labour watchdogs should randomly audit and investigate organisations. It’s pathetic that fully developed adults cannot behave as they should – because some people are incapable of decency towards others we will have to move towards tightly controlled and intrusive forms of governance to monitor behaviour and punish perpetrators. Workplace violence is on the increase internationally – the other option is revolution but that will require that victims unite and commit to the cause until its objectives are achieved.

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  24. I’ve been the victim of a major bully. The only way I know how to deal with this situation is to document everything, all conversations and if anything is stated to you verbally, write it down while it is fresh in your mind. If it’s a large organization these behaviors can be reported to the HR department, but bear in mind, they will contact your boss. Also, chances are this person has an enemy or multiple enemies within the company. Keep in mind the enemy of your enemy is your friend. If the this person is more highly regarded in the organization, ask this person for help, but of course make sure you are comfortable in asking for help after having a discussion with this person of course. The only thing to hope for at that point is that you will be seen as the more valuable employee and the bully will eventually shoot themslves in the foot.

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  25. You gotta fight and fight hard. Do not go into battle with the bully and the system that facilitates their actions thinking it;s going to be easy. I have not been paid in four months, they (my management) have twisted the truth to protect the bully, Stolen evidence, told the compensation people total lies with no evidence to back them up then refuse to give me access to the information to prove them wrong. I have had 3 nervous breakdowns I eat anti depressents like M&M’s and need a huge dose of valium to sleep.

    All that being said I have just recently started ‘winning the war’ so to speak due to holding out so long that I got enough evidence through the trickle feed of info to start showing people the truth.

    If you are going to fight you want to be hard, smart and a lionheart. But be prepared for a long long war against the entire system with little to no support on your side and the resources of the entire company in theirs.

    Get used to telling yourself to ‘suck it up’ too.

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    • Do not seek revenge. Use that energy for research, consult with doctors and attorneys. The most difficult step is to rid yourself of emotional reaction. Take your meds as directed. Talk therapy is good. I am going on over two years, diagnosed with PTSD, panic attacks and extreme anxiety. Take advantage of state and federal services. I have never gone beyond 2 weeks without talk therapy. Beware of darkness.
      Work has become a war zone. Advocate for a healthy workplace.

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  26. What we need in this country is legislation against mobbing…
    In Germany bullies can end up up to 1 year in prison. I’ve heard about case in Australia, when person won a half million dollars in mobbing case.
    We already have good laws against sexual harassment and now it’s time to fight against emotional bullying before some tragedy would occur …
    I experienced bullying in the office… but fortunately I am very strong introverted person, so I created a shield around me and I was able to be happy inside my own “bubble”, despite all bad environment around, but I still feel sorry for other people who would be victims in the future… Issue with bullies is that …they always need some targets, so once you would leave.. they would find another employee to bully…
    There is a website about office mobbing… I hope in nearest future we would be able to have more laws against that type of abusive behaviors.

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  27. Another article I would recommend to read is : “Empty Suits (Aggressive Incompetents) http://www.softpanorama.info/Social/Toxic_managers/aggressive_incompetents.shtml

    It helped me realise how incompetent my manager was and why she resorted to bullying others.

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  28. The best thing about bullies is that they’re dumber than shit. They think so highly of themselves and figure they can get away with anything. My boss got caught in public doing something not exactly illegal but very damaging to his reputation. A friend saw him and took a photo of him on her cell. I sent the photo to his wife and his boss. No note just the photo. Using rubber gloves so no fingerprints. He got into deep shit at home and work. I got even with Shitforbrains with no legal fees. Instead of cringing when l see him now, l laugh. I saved my sanity by doing this.

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    • Forgot to say that my boss has so many enemies at work that he didn’t know who sent the photos. Also, l never told anyone that l was the one who sent them. Not even my husband. I’m taking this secret to the grave, baby!

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  29. Wow and I thought I had it bad. Almost 15 years at my job and i decided to step down a few months ago and go back to school, make some changes for better in my life. I currently work with children with disabilities and the one person who i thought was a nice guy when he was hired is now my current supervisor and 100% asshole. I received my first write up today ever for answering my cell phone (he claims i answered it and was rude to him when he asked me to put my phone in a locker??!!) They have completely ripped this company apart and i could care less about their petty torments. They don’t send me home on days where they don’t need me. They give me the “difficult” children. None of them are “difficult” Morons!!! but their way of thinking disgusts me and the children are not benefiting from it. It truly pains me to say that these children that are left are sitting in a room with very little to do. the people in charge are too busy thinking of ways to torture the good employees that they have, instead of focusing on the kids that they have left. They claim that the company is way better than the way I ran it a few months ago. I had over 85 children at this place during my tenure, which wasn’t easy. that number has diminished by half in just the last 4 months. I was having a really bad day today and googled this and glad i did. I know i need to take care of myself first and foremost, but i really feel for those kids that will still be here when i leave(which will be in a month) i know i can’t save everyone, but after reading these posts, i no longer want to get even with my bosses. For as much as I would like to punch them all in the face, i know that the best revenge will be to see me walking out the door and not giving them the satisfaction they ever had the best of me.

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    • You bet it’s offensive! For a saint’s perspective, read my latest post “St.Bernadette, Bullied by Serial Bully Boss”. This IS spiritual warfare for sure! Your ability to respond, “without showing a phased demeanor”, is something that St.Bernadette was stellar at, and is the most affective way, to keep bullying to a minimum. That is, while you are looking for a better position! Bullies may back off, but they rarely give up. God Bless You, and every target of workplace bullies and their little mobs, ABC

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    Fighting evil with evil may help initially during our short lives on this earth, but will NOT be an advantageous choice, in the very long run of eternity.

    Bullying IS spiritual warfare, which God allows to both test and develop our characters for what comes after this life. We are in a constant battle of good versus evil, or in other words, God versus Satan, and then eventually, it’s either an eternity in Heaven or in Hell. Born with “free will”, we make the choices here, in our short earthly lives, God only wanting to share eternity in Heaven with only those who freely choose His ways, and through repentence of their sinful ways, develop behaviors, which reflect those of His Son, Jesus Christ.

    If you REALLY believe in God, it is very important that you bring your problems to Him. Why should God accept you as His own on judgement day, when you’ve been calling out to a caster for help, rather than Him? If you don’t believe in God, it doesn’t matter who you call out to, or how you behave, does it?

    I am curious about the thoughts of others, regarding this comment. So share your thoughts by leaving YOUR comment today.

    Thanks for the diversity you add to this topic,

    You’re in my prayers,

    ABC

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  61. There is something that people need to be clear on. There is revenge and then there is defending yourself. Revenge is a bad idea. Its just self gratification with no purpose other than “getting back at someone” And there is a risk of having it blowback because the garbage that plays these bullying gamesis usually quite good at it. However, you cannot “turn the other cheek” if you try to “take the high road” and expect others to see through the obvious ,and sometimes outright crazy lies , you will be far worse than disappointed. A skilled practitioner will wait until you show weekness. Years may go by, but they keep up the same story. After a while, “everyone” knows its true.each lie after that is looked in that context. “Well, it WOULD seem pretty crazy that the victim is stalking someone, but only if you don’t understand the background of this person” Quite literally, sent of these nuts will take pictures of you, talk coworkers onto watching you and reporting back, and write detailed reports of what car your driving, when you come and go and with who, and then have the nerve to accuse you of being obsessed with them! And after they have said it for enough years , people will bwleive them. These prices of filth step outside the social contract. As such, they are not deserving of its protection and their biggest advantage over you is that you are still bound by them.

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    But first you need to understand them.many have diagnosable mental diseases.Its not hard to see how paranoia and obsession for example can motivate them. Whatever is wrong in their head, understand it. Then use it. For example, people with paranoid delusions make crazy nonsensical connections. The paranoid obsessive is probably after you because the imagine your somehow after them. So give them something else to worry about. For example, drop a rumor that someone in power is out to get them. A fake email.on the printer from a manager you’d like to see how crazy this person is. Since it can’t be traced to you, who cares if they leave it and it gets back to the manager.with luck, they will turn on that manager. With real luck, they will bite off more than they can chew. But be careful. If they get wind that its you behind it, you can make matters worse. They are experts at turning things to their advantage.

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