“Schadenfreude” – A Bully’s Satisfaction. By ABC.


Schadenfreude” – A Bully’s Satisfaction.

By ABC

Have you ever noticed a little smile sweep across your bully’s face just at the moment when you couldn’t feel more infuriated?  Well if you have, you are right.  “Real” Bullies, and by that, I mean bullies with a level of psychopathy, also referred to as sociopathy…

“gain satisfaction through

antisocial behavior”, characterized by an abnormal lack of empathy combined with strongly amoral conduct but masked by an ability to appear outwardly normal” –
-quoted from Wikipedia at this link:    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychopathy#Perceptual.2Femotional_recognition_deficits

Although this resource uses the word “satisfaction” to describe

what  “a psychopath gains through their antisocial behavior”, it is an entirely different kind of  “satisfaction” than both defined and  experienced by most of us.  “A bully’s satisfaction” is a perverse form of satisfaction,  being malicious in nature, rather than joyful or positive, as defined in English dictionaries.

There is actually no English word which links personal “satisfaction” to another person’s misfortune or harm.  Such a word doesn’t exist, because most people, are incapable of thinking in those terms, while denying the existence of the  few, who do.  Some languages acknowledge those few, having words for them, like the German word;

“Schadenfreude”

–noun
satisfaction or pleasure felt at someone else’s misfortune.
Dictionary.com Unabridged
Based on the Random House Dictionary, © Random House, Inc. 2011.

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— n
delight in another’s misfortune

[German: from Schaden  harm + Freude  joy]
Collins English Dictionary – Complete & Unabridged 10th Edition
2009 © William Collins Sons & Co. Ltd. 1979, 1986 © HarperCollins
Publishers 1998, 2000, 2003, 2005, 2006, 2007, 2009

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“What a fearful thing is it that any language should have a word expressive of the pleasure which men feel at the calamities of others; for the existence of the word bears testimony to the existence of the thing. And yet in more than one such a word is found. … In the Greek epikhairekakia,  in the German, ‘Schadenfreude.’ ”

As quoted by Richard C. Trench, “On the Study of Words,” 1852

So there it is!  “Such a thing exists”, two languages having words, thereby “bearing testimony to the existence of the thing”, namely, “a bully’s satisfaction”, words of my own, for lack of a more fitting,

German policemen tormenting a Jew in Rzeszów, ...

Image via Wikipedia

existing, English word.

“Schadenfreude” – “A bully’s satisfaction” – Remember the meaning well, if not the word(s), because the meaning does exists, even where a word for it does not, in the memory of many who have witnessed it.  Only some cultures, witnessing it enough,  to name it.

I wonder if the Germans came up with this word, before or after the Holocaust?

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13 Responses

  1. Isn’t it from Nietzsche ?

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  2. Because the human race needs to learn what love actually means, it requires all of us to demonstrate the truth. Unfortunately, economics demand food, warmth etc., Until civilization understands that as we share all, some of us will do without which creates this kill or be killed tatic which creates bullying scenario. I have found through great trials of this event…thorugh being fired, discriminated, homeless…and I have conquered it that the bullies are so frightened, abused, and helpless that when you stand firm without fear and extend love to them that they often retreat but the German Nazi group was allowed to permeate the country with fear of financial loss due to the Jewish influence. But again if one person at a time would stand up and fight like I have at great emotional and personal cost none of this would be happening but then each one of you feel that is is too alone and too useless which is why we need a movement for support. Carol

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  4. I so glad to have connected w u. i luv the work u r working towards and how u r doing it. i enjoyed your elucidation on schadenfreude and agree – it does exist :). keep on!

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  5. Have been reading these tragic situations of bullying in the work place, it is shocking and terrible how some people treat others. These people who do this to others have an incredible need and drive to effect the victim on an emotional level. Some companys even when they are Aware they have a person or persons in their workplace doing this right in front of the companys Face allow it to continue On. Most victims give up the Fight when facing these situations as the stress etc becomes too much. When facing these situations you will have to choose what to do. 1 LEAVE 2 Go thru the channels to deal with this, the company responsible will have its Own in House Procedures of handling these situations, another words the company will protect its Own interests at all Costs. 3 Seek Legal advice this means you will have to have evidence a diary with details on what has been happening to you. If you go down this path I would Suggest that before you do. Read about Bunnings Bullying In The Workplace as the Victim recorded the evidence. The victim who worked for Bunnings was Bullied by a Timber Manager. The victim asked Management to stop it. Managements way of handling it was to get other Managers into the Bullying process. In fact All Managers that worked at the Henderson Branch and others. But the victim recorded the events and Bunnings was held responsible for the actions of Management.

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    • I have also read about this situation with Bunnings. Managements involvement with this is just so dishonest.

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  6. ABC, I love your site and have commented many times here and I have always appreciated the smart-discussions your site offers. Right now, I have two different trolls ruining blog-sites by creating false-comments and attacking other sensible-bloggers like myself in their attempt to over-throw the blog-topic. The names they are going by today on WordPress are “John” who is a she and an identity thief, and “Janel” who stole my name several months ago. I love your sites and simply do not want to see them disrupted by their trolling. They are being tracked currently by a professional organization as well as one of the two is being monitored by the authorities for further possible criminal actions. Just to advise, hope things go well on your site, just a “head’s-up” for you. Thanks.

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  7. Thanks for the “heads-up”. Fortunately, this site has been blessed by only sincere, helpful comments. So keep them coming. ABC

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  9. I used to be able to find good information from your blog articles.

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    • Your message left on ABC’s web site;
      “I used to be able to find good information from your blog articles.”

      Reply from ABC;

      Hey Theo,
      What’s up with the negativity – “used to” ? What’s that suppose to mean? (no pun intended). I welcome BOTH positive and negative comments when they are edifying. Negativity, without the specifics of your perspective, leaves nothing to consider, reply to, or learn from. Negative comments void of substance, are meant to hurt, not help. THIS IS BULLYING BEHAVIOR! But, I will not delete your comment, nor this response, because there is something to learn here.

      Dear readers, Take a look at Theo’s comment above. It’s not all that bad really, but it is a perfect example, of what a bully might say to a target. Subtle comments like this, will often go unnoticed by others, as bullying. It was so short, it could have been a joke, who knows, bystanders think, as they put it out of their minds. But the target knows, it was meant to hurt!

      Don’t worry though Theo, being the fair minded person that I am, I wouldn’t call anyone a bully over one comment, but it is important for readers to know, that a comment such as yours, is a red flag. Once a red flag comment is made in the workplace, it’s important to listen carefully to that person’s comments from that point forward, for more red flags.
      Once you’ve determined that there are enough red flags which warrant concern, meet with the person in private and ask them the meaning of the comments that were made. Now, this is the good part readers; Their response, will reveal if they are a real bully, meaning they have a level of psychopathy (also referred to as sociopathy) or not.

      A bully will NEVER admit that comments were meant to hurt and will never make a sincere apology. Instead, they may suggest that it is your perspective or emotional state, that is at issue. BE PREPARED IN ADVANCE, NOT TO RESPOND AT ALL, TO ANYTHING NEGATIVE THAT THE BULLY MAY SAY – just listen.

      If this is happening in a workplace, ask the person if they have any concerns about your performance on the job. AGAIN, JUST LISTEN, DO NOT RESPOND! A real bully may deny any performance issues at all, again suggesting a problem with your perceptions or emotions. This is often the response at the beginning of a bullying campaign.

      Later in a bullying campaign, this same question may elicit vague comments or twisted stories about your relationships with others, mannerisms, and/or trivial fault finding. A real bully, rarely, if ever, has substantial negative feedback related to the bottom-line of your employment, which is the quantity and quality of expected duties and responsibilities, as outlined in a job description, because there aren’t any.

      Remember, real bullies, with a level of psychopathy, are threatened by people whose abilities exceed their own. They have no real issues with your job performance, except their fear that others will make this same comparison. Responses may seem cooperative at first, but you will never be able to work things out with a real bully, whose only real desire is to take you out.

      Now back to Theo; I have responded to Theo’s comment on this web site, which is what you’re reading. I also sent this reply to his email account to be sure it’s received. (Don’t worry Theo your email address is hidden to other readers). If Theo never responds, or offers substance to his comment, it is very likely, that Theo is a bully.

      Let’s wait and see together! ABC
      See ABC’s Comment Policy Page. A portion of this policy is quoted below.
      “Bullying behavior is not permitted on this web-site. I will delete, WITH explanation, any comment content, that reflects the behavior of a bully. Examples include, but are not limited to; name calling, prejudicial statements, hatefulness, and disrespectful statements. Offensive words, phrases and sentences will be hashed-out, with explanation. Suggestions regarding how the intended content or ideas could have been shared in a more edifying way, will be made.”

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  10. Yes – the bullies satisfaction in asserting dominance.

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  11. Reblogged this on Citizens, not serfs and commented:
    Bully’s game plan – more coercive control.

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